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So why have about 30% of women never experienced an orgasm before?
Are you one of the 30% of women who unfortunately have never had an orgasm ever? Are you so desperate for that big climax? If the answer is yes then read on and hopefully our advice will get you on your way to achieving your first.
The first big question is why? Why can you not orgasm? Unfortunately if you are finding it impossible then I am sorry to inform you that this problem will likely get even worse. As you head towards your forties and beyond you will find an orgasm even harder to achieve.
Here are 5 of the main reasons why some women are unable to achieve an orgasm.
Low libido or hypoactive sexual desire disorder, painful sex, sexual arousal disorder, an aversion to sex and the inability to orgasm. Some women are just too in their own head.The psychological weight is just too overbearing, which is causing a mental block that stops the female from orgasming physically.
Hypoactive sexual disorder
Hypoactive sexual disorder is most common cause for being unable to have an orgasm. This problem is more common in women and is basically a complete absence of sexual desire. Around 16 million women suffer from this problem and can be caused by stress. Also lack of energy, children and other worries like money problems causing low libido.
Other common causes are depression, anxiety, lack of privacy, medication side effects. Also medical conditions such as arthritis, menopausal symptoms or a history of sexual or physical abuse.
You are the person in charge of your body so get to know your Vagina and clitoris and understand what feels good for you in pleasure and in comfort. Also breathing exercises can help too especially when you exhale fully as far as you can. This will cause a natural erotic asphyxiation which would give you an incredible intense orgasmic feeling!
So will sex toys help me orgasm and if so which toys?
Many women use sex toys to achieve an orgasm. Here at Pleasure Attic we have various sex toys to hit the right spots.
The magic wand is a real favorite with women due to the high powered vibrations that stimulate the nipples and clitoris. Above is a wand massager we sell on the Pleasure Attic website and is a top seller. We also sell other hand-held magic wands that are USB charged. This type or wand is a perfect sex toy for trying to achieve an orgasm due to its power of vibration and is best suited for women who can only orgasm via non penetrating play.
Another good sex toy for trying to achieve an orgasm is a G-spot style toy which is curved and designed to stimulate the female G-spot which is about 2 cm inside the vagina. The satin G power plus gets its name from the powerful vibrations this sex toy produces.
You will find many more sex toys like the 2 above which will hopeful help you achieve that amazing feeling of an orgasm.
So what are the best sex positions to help stimulate the G-spot?
The G-spot is located on the anterior (the side under your belly button) wall of the vagina, about two inches in. It will respond best to a firm constant pressure press and the feeling can be amazing.
Doggy style: Doggy style is probably the best sex position for hitting the G-spot and because a mans penis is naturally tilted slightly downwards due to the alignment of your bodies resulting in it rubbing up against your G-spot area making this feel incredible.
Shallow thrusting is better in this position too due to the G-spot being pretty close to the entrance of the vagina.
In this doggy style position you could also lay flat on your stomach with a few pillows under your hips enjoying the way this hits all the right spots!
On Top: Have your man up against a headboard at a 45 degree angle and straddle him with your legs either side of his hips. When he’s sitting up a bit, his penis is pushed back towards his body, which helps it rub up against the anterior wall of your vagina causing pleasure especially if hitting your G-spot area. He can sit up or lean back more to suit what is best for you and your bodies.
Try grinding against him, rocking your hips back and forth slowly as this will also help with clitoral stimulation due to the fact your clitoris will be rubbing up against him.
Spooning: This can be a tricky position at first but with him spooned up behind you with your legs raised slightly his penis is in a position to rub up against your G-spot. You can even entwine your legs with his to give you a more tighter fit.
If all fails in the g-spot department when trying to achieve an orgasm then you can try get your partner to perform oral sex on you. You can let him know what feels best for you on your clitoris. Fingers can also be used at the same time pressing against your g-spot.
Don’t be afraid to experiment and be adventurous by using things like lubes and blindfolds to enhance your feeling and senses.